Do you enjoy to listening to people with new ideas and fresh perspectives on the business of life? Recently, I heard a highly respected, successful business executive in the financial industry make this statement;
If you really want to make God laugh, tell Him your plan for your life!
Now this might cause some of you to stop reading right now! But wait, hear me out! I believe that there is little security in plans, goals, or strategies that are based only on what I want. When we do not consider the bigger picture, place ourselves in a role that places us in the middle of something bigger than ourselves, our best, most valiant efforts will always feel like we are chasing something. We will fight to stay focused and motivated. We will vow to work harder and longer and with more sweat and tears.
It does not matter if you are the CEO of a billion dollar company or an individual trying to pay your medical bills, when we decide to set goals, the energy we are creating them from will always be associated with the goal and eventual outcome.
25% Resolution: I can’t stand this anymore, I can’t live like this anymore, I have to do something, I need to make changes.
All of these statements express some form of victimhood, guilt or anger. While these statements are all too familiar to us and may sound motivating, they come from a place that will only perpetuate more pain, suffering, low self-esteem and frustration.
50% Resolution: I want a new job, I want more money, I want a new relationship, I want a new car, I want a promotion….etc.
“I want” statements are more powerful and engaging because you are choosing what you want. Now you are coming from a place of self empowerment. However, the motivation to have something still connects with a lack of something, neediness and dissatisfaction, even fear and scarcity.
75% Resolution: Zoom in to connect with how you want to feel. I want to feel loved (new relationship), I want to feel secure (more money), I want to feel successful (validation of accomplishments).
These feelings are better than feeling like a victim and still express a greater awareness of what you are looking for but are still based on object referral. Deepak Chopra in his Seven Spiritual Laws for Success, establishes this definition;
In object-referral we are always influenced by objects outside of ourselves……constantly seeking the approval of others……….always in anticipation of a response.
Self -referral means that our internal reference point is our spirit, and not the objects of our experience.
100% Resolution: I want to feel and express love for myself and others.
Understanding self-referral allows us to begin within ourselves (Zoom In) which then leads us to look outside ourselves to the biggest picture we can imagine (Zoom Out) . The desire to connect with something bigger than ourselves and of benefit to everyone around us is the highest resolution of the Zoom Out/Zoom In Model.
NOW you are ready to set goals and take action: This is the place where you will create goals that you will always be motivate to achieve and work for. Your efforts to succeed will be richly rewarded in ways you could never have visioned on your own! The opportunities, solutions and ideas for how to continually move towards this big, visionary goal will seem effortless, like timeless play.
Every week at the Journeysfire Fellowship in Indianapolis, we end with this intention:
Lets us be masters of ourselves so that we may be servants to others.
On your computer or other device you can choose to zoom in, zoom out, or reset to default. What is your default resolution for goal setting?