On April 3, 2012 we celebrated by mother’s life. Born in Cleveland, Ohio, on June 12, 1929, she lived for almost 83 years. The celebration included favorite hymns like: It is Well with My Soul, Jesus Loves Me, Just as I Am, This is my Father’s World, Amazing Grace and How Great Thou Art. I played piano and Lauren led us in meditation with Amazing Grace on the viola. The Reverend Kris Eggert and Barbara Holzhauser from Hospice of the Western Reserve shared scripture and their personal wisdom with the 50+ friends and family gathered at the funeral home. My daughter, Lauren, read from Ecclesiastes Chapter 7:
1 A good reputation is more valuable than the most expensive perfume. In the same way, the day you die is better than the day you are born. 2 It is better to spend your time at funerals than at festivals. For you are going to die, and you should think about it while there is still time. 3 Sorrow is better than laughter, for sadness has a refining influence on us. (NLT)
I didn’t feel grief. I felt sorrow that the time of being with my mother in physical form had passed. I didn’t feel fear for her. I felt fear about my own life. Am I holding myself accountable for every moment, every action, every word, every thought?
During the service and afterwards, I felt joy. So much joy.
I wish I had more time at the grave site. I wanted to linger and absorb the awakening of nature and the spirits floating around greeting the new “resident”. I hope the deer are enjoying the beautiful yellow roses we left behind.